When is it okay to feel hurt in your relationship

Did you ever feel your bf or your husband just made you feel like nothing.They never said anything to you but their actions and their behaviour spoke volumes.Really guys out there .IT HURTS! Like just the other day my bf just told me it's cool by him if he sees me in a months time.What? Really ? Did you just say that? You see men tend to speak in the forms of jokes ,they tend to make situations lighter to handle, in their minds.When in reality it seems to the person on the receiving end,terribly worse. In the girls mind (my mind at the time) What is he saying? He needs space,he wants alone time,is he cheating or what is happening? You see women tend to over anylise every move and word our partner tends to make or say. Yes,that might seem crazy but in reality we are little explosians, waiting to explode why- Boys you may ask? Why? Because we invested to much in you. We willingly give our time,devotion,bodies,lives and importantly our hearts. So in fact, if you skrew up -you ruin our lives too. Men on the hand tend to think that women are police officers ruining their fun and cramping their style.Well I say if you consider your women in that way -you aint ready for a serious relationship.You're a boy that still needs alota growing up to do To the men let me advise you what I told my love bf-If you threat me right ...I'll be the best gf ever but if you consistently consider yourself, we always gonna argue.You see really it works both ways.There are women who are selfish too.And selfish people just dont belong in a serious relationships.Couples work on the relationship-try new things and always work on yourself first before pointing fingers. After my heated argument with my bf ,I received a surprise visit from him while still hastily arguing with him on watsapp.I really swolled by words at the time.We spent the entire weekend in bed,eating lotsa goodies,listening to old school music and absorbing every bit of tlc-which was so much needed. Guys take a lesson sometimes it's good to be alone and just do nothing for an entire weekend and just breathe eachother in.It makes your relationship so much stronger.