So after reading a couple of relationship blogs, I've come across two under lying topics-How do I get someone to love me ? and How to maintain your relationship.
I think its true ,that 2 topics is the most important to human beings finding happiness and keeping it.Sometimes we feel like we chasing happiness and it won't reside with us but floats and flutters away like a butterfly.Can we keep up with that chase? I mean honestly with all the hype,media and technological interaction.Thus it can either make you better or worsen the situation we all find ourselves in.
The media today depicts us to be certain catogries.You must be thin.tall,sexy,rich or intelligent.You must own a car and be able to socialise without fail.Yet we all know we aren't, perfect people living in little boxes.We just, us competing with what we envision for ourselves-that's the hardest dream to live up to- our own!
So here it goes!
How to find that special person....
1. Check the company you keep.If had not met anyone for years because you still hanging around the same buds since kindergarden it's time to move a bit.I'm not saying ditch your friends -I mean take up that invite to a party or a weekend away or drink-you just never know.You might stumble on that special toe or splash a drink in that beautiful stranger's face, you're about to meet.
2.Take some pride in the person you are.
So many people say try this and that.How about just being you.Try to enhance yourself to be the best person you can be! Try a new hair cut.Buy a new pair of shoes and go get a makeover.Be a mall rat for a change.Inevitably the point is gettin out there.Have an adventure and live a little.Most singles nowadays have two problems they cant get over a bad breakup or they to afraid to try new things.
3.Make it a priority to have fun.
I tend to make lists all the time to keep in check with the important things in life.
So start jotting down, what you think will make you happy.If it's sport do that.If it's bowling or movies go ahead and do it.Love photogaphy join a group or a site.Like minded people tend to get along.The way to winning hearts is to be yourself and do what you love.
How to keep that love just as hot as when you met...
It's simple just be those people you were when you met.Well as we know that statement cannot be true as we know, individuals are always changing.Our tastes,preferences and even our habits.Take my boyfriend for example at first when we met-he liked baggy clothes,listened to wrap and hardly ate anything green and healthy.But as our lives progressed he changed and I had to adapt to his preferences.So now he likes sophosicated clothes,printed tees he never wore before and his on a health buzz.You see, always trying to learn more this is the key to a healthy relationship.Trust me his favourite colour,song and chocolate keeps changing too and so will your choices.
so 1 .Keep up with changes in your significant others life.
2 .Learn their mannerisms
I tend to learn my boyfriend's behaviour and he learns mine.I know how he will react if I certain things.And so vice versa.If he doesn't answer his phone and I am trying to reach him he knows I'm gonna have a mild argument with him.So we all tend to react differently to different situations.
3.Try to learn to forgive.....
Yip this is a hard one.Yes in your relationship,there will be problems and road blocks and people who meddle in your business.The only way I learned to deal with this and trust me it took years to learn this but try to let things slide -those little agonising things that make you go bisirk.Let go and trust me your relationship will be healthier and less complicated.
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