Love and all that jazz...

So after reading a couple of relationship blogs, I've come across two under lying topics-How do I get someone to love me ? and How to maintain your relationship. I think its true ,that 2 topics is the most important to human beings finding happiness and keeping it.Sometimes we feel like we chasing happiness and it won't reside with us but floats and flutters away like a butterfly.Can we keep up with that chase? I mean honestly with all the hype,media and technological interaction.Thus it can either make you better or worsen the situation we all find ourselves in. The media today depicts us to be certain catogries.You must be thin.tall,sexy,rich or intelligent.You must own a car and be able to socialise without fail.Yet we all know we aren't, perfect people living in little boxes.We just, us competing with what we envision for ourselves-that's the hardest dream to live up to- our own! So here it goes! How to find that special person.... 1. Check the company you k...

4 Ways to Maintain Attraction In A Relationship … Posted on March 28, 2011 in Advice For Guys, Relationship Advice A reader asks …. “While your advice in attracting women is some of the best I’ve seen, the problem is that the problem doesn’t stop there. The real question is: How do you maintain that attraction and sex appeal when you enter a serious relationship where maybe the goal is to get married, have kids, buy a house, consolidate finances, and live the rest of the life like two responsible adults. What do men need to do to stay sexy to their committed women, while possibly working 10 hours a day and taking care of other daily responsibilities and duties. – D ” #1 Knowing what’s really important … Awesome question! Now, I’m going to highlight where I see the problem, “How do you maintain that attraction when you enter a serious relationship where maybe the goal is to get married, have kids, buy a house, consolidate finances and live the rest of the life like two resp...

Hi guys today I am sad.I mean really sad.Guess today out there I need your advice. Let me tell you all about my relationship dilema.Well I just felt down, after chatting to my bf he refuses to come down to my place and spend some time with me.I found it so sad that my bf wont want to spend time with me.We had just recently spent a weekend away with friends and now it's back to square one.I seem to always go to his place where we never alone ,all we do is watch movies with his family,go to a mall or he plays with his sister's kids.I am sure other couples make special alone time for eachother,but for me it seems he spends most of his time -away from me even though I am there.I often wonder if this is all that there is and I should be grateful and shut up at least someone loves me.Is that love or is it just I am seriously sick of your face after ten years of dating.I want to get married so bad just to spend time alone in his company and have our own place.He responds to that sa...

Do You Like Who You See In The Mirror? Are you self-rejecting or self-accepting? When you see your reflection in the mirror, do you smile acceptingly or do you flinch and groan internally? Some people fear that liking their image in the mirror will mean that they are vain or conceited. Others reject themselves because they are measuring themselves against the fictitious standards of beauty photoshop has created. Still others reject themselves because their lives have not turned out the way they hoped they would. You can tell the difference between self-acceptance and vanity by observing your attitude toward others.  Self-acceptance does not lead you to put anyone else down in order to feel good about yourself, where vanity leads to pointing out others weaknesses in order to feel superior. Vanity and conceit are bluster to make up for and hide personal doubts. Photoshop can be used to make skin flawless, remove imperfections, add or reduce curves. But in the end it seems ...

Hi guys out there.Toady I am not well.Monthlys looming over me and my poor body I have become a more obsessed lady searching for age old answers.Why did eve have to eat that apple.Now all women are forced to suffer these woes of child bearing nature. Anyway this month I'd like to look at subjects based on women and we go through on a daily basis. I mean there's the mother who sweats and toils all day.The girlfriend.The suducer.The lady.The girl next door.The wife.The new date. We  have to be all this wrapped into one and still be t true to  you.Whilst holding down these roles we have remain true ourselves and have a little sanity lef,t we continue to please everyone around us. Ever felt this way ? I have being a daughter,sister,girlfriend,collugue,friend,buddy,prayer friend and me .Yes each of us have our roles to play.Let's for this week try to focus on us just for once.Go for a massage,read a book in the outdoors,get  a pedi done.Just Celebrate You.

" Marriage is Honorable Among All "  Hebrews 13:4-6 4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. 5 Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, "I will never leave you nor forsake you." 6 So we may boldly say: "The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?" The world is lost and confused when it comes to the subject of marriage. It has taken what is lovely and turned it into something cheap and ugly. Having been devalued, it is easily discarded. Rich and Wendi, you will stand apart in the midst of this culture―husband and wife made holy before God and man―united in covenant before a watching world. Everyone wants to know if you really mean what you say. Everyone wants to see if it really works. Try, as our culture does, to erode and dilute marriage, Christian marriage is a thing to be admired, and eve...

—Mark 3:25 TODAY’S DARE Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.

Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. —Philippians 2:4 TODAY’S DARE Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first. Day 12: Love lets the other win

　 Day 5: Love is not rude He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him. —Proverbs 27:14 TODAY’S DARE Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.

　 Day 4: Love is thoughtful —Psalm 139:17–18 How precious also are Your thoughts to me. . . .How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. 　 TODAY’S DARE   Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

　 Day 3: Love is not selfish —Romans 12:10 TODAY’S DARE Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today." Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor.

　 Day 2: Love is kind   Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. —Ephesians 4:32 TODAY’S DARE In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

　 Day 1: Love is patient —Ephesians 4:2 NIV TODAY’S DARE The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

Have you ever felt like your relationship is slipping through your fingers and there is no way to fix it.I have and so ever so now and then I try to use my secret weapon and I have taken time out today to share it with my readers.If you argue all the time and it seems both or one of you just want out.Don''t give up yet! I challenge you to do the love dare for 40 days and then decide. So I will be loading a dare everyday and if you wana join me -you have nothing to loose and everything to gain.Love and a beautiful relationship ,the type you have always dreamed of . Tips: Before starting watch the movie Fireproof

Dear Dairy Sometimes you realise the very thing that's keeping yourself away from happiness is you!I have discovered that just letting go of things has helped me cope.And guess what has happened He returned.I guess he never left ,I was stupid and dumb to believe these social media sites and after a good clean conversation ,I understood what was happening and the whole situation was a misunderstanding. I mean these days social media has really infiltrated our lives. I will definately not make rash assumptions in future.I stood to risk someone so important to me and I would've never have  forgiven myself for it.So all I can say is love is a strange thing ,no one will understand how the guy or girl feels in a particular relationship.The reason for this everyone has their own unique relationship dynamic-nobody's relationship is alike.Therefore no one will ever have the same experience in their relationship.So who are we amateur pychologist to offer advice.In actual fact the...